I’m not your traditional Couples Therapist.
In my 30 plus years of practice, I realized some of what we were taught in therapy school wasn’t helping my clients. You may have heard therapists should remain neutral, an “unbiased third party.” Too often, this doesn’t serve you. In fact, at times it perpetuates your marital problems. That’s why I won’t always stay a neutral observer. When needed, with compassionate firmness, I’ll call out destructive, anti-relational behavior, help you speak truth to power, and bring you both out of an anti-relational stance into genuine, healthy intimacy.
I think of myself as a visiting conductor for the symphony of your marriage, guiding you both on listening, speaking up, holding back, waiting your turn… and then passing the baton to the two of you. My goal is for you to put me out of a job – I don’t want you in couples therapy forever.
Most who come to see me are very good people, though some have been relating and behaving destructively for far too long, damaging their relationships. Much of this was learned in the “relationship school” of the family where they grew up. Many, if not most, are highly successful professionally, but their relationships are falling apart.
If you are ready to do the work, my goal is to reconnect you to the relational person inside, freeing you from the destructive behaviors keeping you from connecting to yourself, your spouse, and your children; creating the fulfilling relationships you’ve longed for.
Education and Background
I’ve had wonderful mentors throughout my career, including my former supervisor, Esther Perel (author of “Mating in Captivity” and “The State of Affairs”) and training in Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real (author of “The New Rules of Marriage” and “I Don’t Want to Talk About It”).
My parents were both entrepreneurial, having owned multiple successful businesses, including two roller skating rinks, a printing company, and an accounting firm. This led me to launching Together Couples Counseling in 2005, combining my desire to help people with their relationships and my own entrepreneurial spirit.
As a child, I learned self-discipline, focus, and determination through competitive roller skating. My parents instilled in me integrity, hard work, love, acceptance, and empathy.
I completed the Marine Corps Marathon four times, the Disney Marathon once, and numerous half marathons. I’ve been a Team In Training Mentor for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, dedicated to helping put an end to blood cancers, raising with my family over $30,000 for the LLS.
I’m also a wife, mother, step-mother, mother-in-law, Savta (grandmother), dog mom, and chocolate lover. Ice Skating, Fall festivals, singing with my daughter at the top of our lungs in the car, and gatherings at our home on the Chesapeake Bay, are some favorite activities.